Tony Williams, with Bobby and his father, Ches Haines.
Bob Haines, remembers a few telling stories about his uncle
The story goes: Tom Lyle thought the plain mahogany paneling behind his ornate, hand carved mahogany desk, with it's red leather executive chair, looked too plain. He complained about it to his brother Noel, who took the intuitive and called in a craftsman to cover it with 24K Gold Leaf. When Tom Lyle returned from California, he walked into his office and was thrilled that his office looked like a showplace. After all Maybelline colors were red and gold? Bob also remembers when The Villa Valentino was taken in eminent domain, for the Hollywood freeway and Tom Lyle bought the lot at the top of Bel Air, to build his steel and glass estate.
The story goes. Emery, Tom Lyle's partner, asked TL to go to Hawaii, while the new Bel Air home was being finished, because it was too stressful on TL to work with contractors. When he returned, rested and tan, Emery couldn't wait to show him the finished product. Tom Lyle took one look at the steel beams, between the panes of plate glass, and wrinkled his nose. "it looks terrible" he said, "I can't live with it." Emery was perplexed and didn't know what to do. Tom Lyle knew exactly what to do and had them 24K Gold plated. Bob's favorite memory of his uncle took place in Chicago, when he was 15 years old and just got a learners permit to drive a car.
The story goes: Tom Lyle pulled up in front of the Haines home in a new cream colored, 1940 Packard Victoria Convertible, while Bob, was sitting on the porch. He ran down the steps to examine the car, when Tom Lyle, handed him the key's and said, "why not take it for a spin around the block." Bob's parents, Eva and Ches ran out of the house, yelling "no it's too risky." But uncle Lyle insisted Bob be allowed to have the thrill of his life.
Read more interesting and entertaining stories, in my book The Maybelline Story and the Spirited Family Behind It.
There once was a little boy named Robert (Williams) Haines, who was so adored, it seemed nearly impossible, he'd ever find a bride acceptable to his doting family
After two adorable daughters, named, June and Marilyn, Eva and Ches Haines, rang the bells with delight, announcing the birth of their baby boy. Bobby was as close to a cherub as any child ever born, and with his curly brown hair, sparkling blue eyes and a sweet disposition, like no other.
Little Bobby, though having two doting sisters, was all-boy, growing up loving fast cars, cowboys and pretty girls. Bobby's parents encouraged his adventurous nature, knowing someday he'd grow up to be a man they'd be proud of.
And yes, Bobby did grow to be a fine young man, devoted to God, Country and Family, wanting nothing more than to someday find the perfect girl, settle down and raise a family.
Bob, with his sister's June and Marilyn.
So it wasn't that unexpected, when he fell in love with a beautiful young girls named Jackie, four years his junior. Bob knew, she was the one! Jackie was the new girl in school from Arizona, a cowgirl now living in Chicago.
She was Independent and adventurous, with beautiful blue eyes and a stunning figure. However, when her family returned to Arizona in her senior year, Bob wanted to follow her, but his parents said absolutely no!
"Not so fast - she's too young, you're making a mistake." his mother Eva, said. But, he'd been raised to be his own man and Jackie was the woman he wanted. He followed his sweet 16 year old girlfriend out West and and stayed until she turned seventeen.
As soon as she graduated from High School in 1953, she and Bob married at the Church in Prescott Arizona, Bob and Jackie were so in love, nothing could stop them.
Jackie and Bob Haines, of the left, followed by Dick and Marilyn Haines-Westhouse, John and June Haines-Gary, Eva Williams-Haines. Below is David and Jerry Westhouse and June and John's little girl Kathy.
Soon the Jackie was part of the Williams-Haines family and she and Bob had their first son, Steve Haines. Eventually 5 more handsome sons came along and all grew up to be fine young men, just like their dad.
Now that's a Love Story.
Jackie lost her beloved Bob a couple years ago but is surrounded by her big family and is loved by all.
There once was a little boy named Robert (Williams) Haines, who was so adored, it seemed nearly impossible, he'd ever find a bride acceptable to his doting family
After two adorable daughters, named, June and Marilyn, Eva and Ches Haines, rang the bells with delight, announcing the birth of their baby boy. Bobby was as close to a cherub as any child ever born, and with his curly brown hair, sparkling blue eyes and a sweet disposition, he was like no other.
Little Bobby, though having two doting sisters, was all-boy, growing up loving fast cars, cowboys and pretty girls. (Like most every little boy in the family!!) Bobby's parents encouraged his adventurous nature, believing, someday he'd grow up to be a man they'd be proud of.
And yes, Bobby did grow to be a fine young man, devoted to God, Country and Family, wanting nothing more than to someday find the perfect girl, settle down and raise a family.
Bob, with his sister's June and Marilyn.
So it wasn't that unexpected, when he was bit by the love-bug while a senior in high school. Enchanted by the most remarkable young Maiden, named Jackie, four years his junior - Bob knew, she was the one! Jackie was the new girl in school, from out West in Arizona, a cowgirl, really - now living in the big city of Chicago for the first time. Independent, adventurous - with beautiful blue eyes, and a stunning figure, Bob vowed to follow her to the ends of the earth. But when her family returned to Arizona in her senior year, Bob's family said, not so fast - she's too young son, you might be making a mistake. However, they'd raised him to be his own man, and this was the woman he wanted. So he followed 16 year old Jackie out West - willing to face what ever fate dished out.
As soon, as 17 year old Jackie graduated from High School, in 1953, she married her sweetheart in Prescott Arizona, and they soon started their own family. Bob and Jackie were so in love, nothing was going to stop them, no matter what!!
Jackie and Bob Haines, of the left, followed by Dick and Marilyn Haines-Westhouse, John and June Haines-Gary, Eva Williams-Haines. Below is David and Jerry Westhouse and June and Johns little girl, Kathy.
Soon the Enchanted Maiden, was part of the Williams-Haines family and over the years gave Eva and Ches, 6 grandsons, who grew up to be fine young men, just like their dad and granddad.
Bob and Jackie will celebrate their 62 Wedding Anniversary this year, and as Bob approaches his 83rd, Birthday in August, they remain the longest married couple in the entire family. Now that's a Love Story. Stay tuned for more romantic love stories from The Maybelline Story and the Spirited Family Dynasty, as Valentines Day approaches February 14th.
We little knew that morning, God was going to call your name, In life we loved you dearly, In death we do the same. It broke our hearts to lose you, You did not go alone. For part of us went with you. The day God called you home.
June, Bob, Ches, Eva and MarilynHaines.
You left us beautiful memories, Your love is still our guide, And though we cannot see you, You are always at our side. Our family chain is broken, and nothing seems the same, But as God calls us one by one. The chain will link again.
The Cousins in 1934.....right to left....Tom Lyle Williams Jr holding baby Joyce Hewes, Helen Williams, Annette Williams, Bill Williams, Noel Williams, June Haines, Shirley Hewes,Marilyn Haines, Tommy Hewes, Dick Williams, Bob Haines.
June and Marilyn Haines.
Tony Williams-Shaver with Marilyn.
Marilyn with Tony
Marilyn with her parents Eva and Ches Haines.
June, Bob and Marilyn.
At The Villa Valentino, Eva, June Tom Lyle and Marilyn...in the pool, Ches and Bob
Eva and Marilyn.
Bob and Jackie Haines, Dick and Marilyn Westhouse, John and June Gary, Eva Haines, David, Jerry Westhouse with June and John's, daughter Kathy.
Eva, Marilyn and Tom Lyle Williams, at his home in Bel Air California.
Bobby Westhouse, Tom Lyle Williams, Marilyn and John Gary, Lori and Cindy Gary in Bel Air.
Eva and Marilyn with Marilyn's grandchildren.
The Haines family...Eva and Ches' 45th Wedding Anniversary, 1969. Marilyn first on the left seated next to Jackie Haines.
Marilyn, Ann Louise and Shirley at the Family Reunion at Bob and Jackie's in Virginia, 1990.
John Gary, Gloria Williams, Jackie Haines, Marilyn Gary,Bill Williams, Bob Haines. Family Reunion.
Marilyn and John's home in Virginia, the hub of family joy and Happiness for over 30 years.
This picture encapsulates everything Marilyn loved - family, animals, nature, and her home in Virginia. One other thing she loved was plants. Marilyn told Shirley it took her hours to water all the plants she kept in her huge home. She was truly a nurturer. (Linda Hughes) Be not burdened with times of sorrow, I wish you the sunshine of tomorrow. My life's been full, I savored much, Good friends, good times a loved one's touch. Perhaps my time seemed all too brief; Don't lengthen it now with undue grief. Lift up your heart and share with me-- God wanted me now, God set me free. Darling Marilyn Rest in Peace....
In the Arms of the Angels
Marilyn Gary's Obituary
Marilyn Frances Gary, 83, of Natural Bridge, formerly of Chicago, died on Thursday, October 11th, 2012 at the Lexington Court Nursing Home in Richmond, Virginia.
She was born on April 11th, 1929, in Chicago, Illinois,
the daughter of the late Chester and Eva Haines. In
addition to her parents, Marilyn was preceded in death
by her beloved husband, John Gary.
Marilyn was a devoted and incredible wife, mother,
grandmother, and great grandmother. A lover of animals and the environment, she took great pleasure in caring for her numerous dogs, cats, and horses as well as exploring the Shenandoah Valley. She spent a significant amount of time nurturing her environment by cleaning litter and debris from roads, streams, and rivers - as well as caring for the home she loved, Forest Oaks.
Surviving are Marilyn's six children, Jerry Westhouse, David Westhouse, Kathy Obermaier, Robert Westhouse, Cindy Callaway and Lori Caveness; 17 grandchildren and 11 great-grandchildren.
A mass of Christian burial will be conducted at 11 A.M.
on Saturday, October 20th, 2012 at St. Patrick's
Catholic Church by Father Joe D'Aurora. Burial will be at
High Bridge Presbyterian Church Cemetery,
Natural Bridge. Marilyn's Eulogy
Good morning. My name is Andrew Westhouse – I am one of Marilyn Gary’s seventeen grandchildren.
LOVE That is the word that comes to my mind – and always has – when I think about Nana and the kind of Grandmother that she was. Nana loved with everything that she had. Indeed, she loved with every fiber of her being. And let me give you a few examples:
Nana loved adventure:
Visiting the Peaks of Otter and hiking to Sharp Top
Exploring Grey Ledge Climbing Indian Rock…and, if you were brave enough, sliding down the steep stream
And, of course, trips down the back road, in the truck, packed with kids and dogs Nana loved nature:
Cleaning up garbage on the side of route 11 and side roads Cleaning sticks and rubbish in the stream leading to the pond Swimming and playing at the waterfall at the Foot Bridge.
Nana loved to cover her mouth after a slight….OR A GREAT…slip of the tongue: Everyone can remember the famous Nana (cover mouth)
Nana loved animals:
Visiting the Cat House on the back road…and trying to make the water pump work
The Dogs – Shamus, Mata, Bridget, Anna, Kelsey, Inga
The Horses – Cricket, Sargent, Mimi, Blue, Finley, and, perhaps her favorite, Keatser
The Cats – Tiny Kitty, Prince Gary
…And about few hundred more…
Nana loved movies – however, there were two strings attached:
She had to have a big, soft paper napkin to put on the bridge of her nose to cushion the weight of her eye glasses
- AND –
(2) No animal of any species may appear - at any point - in the movie.
Nana loved to:
Laugh, she loved Church, Forest Oaks, reading, the Palm Parlor, a Wendy’s frosty, white wine and cigarette on the portico after 5, Little House on the Prairie, and, let’s not forget, peanut butter – jelly – bologna – and mayonnaise sandwiches …
-AND-
More than anything, Nana loved her family: Jerry, Dave, Kathy, Bob, Cindy, Lori, 17 Grandkids, 11 great grandkids …and counting, and…not least of which, the love of her life, Poppa…and, even with such a large roster to manage, she made everyone feel so special and so loved.
Nana also loved St. Francis of Assisi – the patron Saint of animals and ecology…two things that were so close to her heart. So it’s easy to see why these words, a prayer of St. Francis of Assisi, so embodied Nana:
Lord, make me an instrument of your peace Where there is hatred, let me sow love Where there is injury, pardon Where there is doubt, faith Where there is darkness, light And where there is sadness, joy
O divine master, grant that I may not so much seek to
be consoled as to console To be understood as to understand To be loved as to love For it is in giving that we receive It is in pardoning that we are pardoned And it is in dying that we are born to eternal life Nana, we love YOU with all of our hearts and all of our souls. We are blessed and better people for having known you, for having been touched by you, and, more than anything, for having been so deeply loved by you. Memories of Marilyn I remember being amazed that Marilyn was very athletic, unlike the other ladies of her generation. As you know she loved riding horses, but I recall when we went to Mercer she water-skied. I especially remember because a ski came off and smashed into her leg leaving the biggest bruise I've ever seen, but she was very stoic about it. LLL (Linda Hughes) Here's Joyce's story:
When we grow up we often wish we had been closer as children with our relatives. But it usually doesn't work out that way. And as an adult Marilyn was such an exuberant person. I remember at the reunion at Bob and Jackie's house Marilyn just rushed me the moment I appeared on the scene. She was shrieking "Auntie Mabel, Auntie Mabel ". She insisted I looked exactly like my mother. She flung herself at me and almost knocked me over in her excitement. After greeting me, so to speak, that way she then dragged me around throughout the crowd yelling at the top of her lungs, as you know, "Look it's Auntie Mabel. Can you believe it? Can you believe it?!!" She was quite the character. Joyce Hewes Here's Shirley's story: Though Diddy and I seldom saw each other after she and John moved to Virginia we took great pleasure in long phone conversations, catching up on family news. We never lost our special connection. As young mothers Diddy and I took long walks with our first-born babies Janet and Jerry (the world's cutest) whose birthdays were one month apart. (Shirley Hughes)
Bill and his cousin June and Marilyn were best
buddies and played house by throwing
a sheet over the kitchen table and crawling underneath it with
snacks
from the pantry. Sharrie Williams
That was beautiful Sharrie. She was a very special gal. We will always remember zest for life. She was so dear to me always giving me a boost when I needed it. RIP our dear Ditty. (Jackie Haines) Wonderful article about Marilyn! She was so beautiful. Who do I send condolences to? (Donna Williams)
Steve Haines ...Perfect Sharrie, all my Love..............
Steve HainesHow I will miss my "Favorite Aunt" there aren't enough words!!! She is now RIP with my Beautiful Grandparents in this photo. How I miss those days, but so Blessed that I/We had them, huh, cousins? Love You ALL!!!
Sharrie Williams - I miss all of them so much. The fun, the laughter the thrill of being part of an amazing family. I'm so glad another generation of cousins are keeping the memories alive. X0
Jacqueline Ann Haineslove love love
Ann CarnerosLove the picture and the blog. I have a great memory of visiting Marilyn and John in Virginia, we had such a great visit lots of laughs and memories! I really bonded with her after seeing her Santa collection! Ann L.
Andrew Westhouse...Thank you for your beautiful piece on Nana Sharrie - it means a great deal to all of us. With love
Scott R. WilliamsGod Bless all in this family. Had great memories growing up With Aunt Marilyn and Uncle John. Loved the house and view!
Thank you all so much for your kind words about Nana. Her Memorial Service wil l be this upcoming Sat. - a week from today - (please contact me for information on Memorial Service.) The blog and stories will be such a good thing for everyone to see as we celebrate her life. Thank you Linda and Sharrie - please give everyone my love, Andrew Westhouse Watch this beautiful video of Marilyn's life, created by her son Jerry Westhouse http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jpXjVk7iJiI&feature=youtu.be
